Hello everyone! It’s that time of year where I find myself saying “OMG, where is the light?!” Then I remember, “It is inside of me!”
Recently Todd was watching a podcast that discussed how to “tolerate” family relationships over the Holidays and ways to cope… This got me a bit jacked because why teach people how to tolerate what doesn’t need to be tolerated? And why do we tolerate?
To be liked? To not create waves? Because it’s a tradition?
What is it that gets in your way?
By asking yourself this question, it allows you to pause and give yourself a gentle reminder not to give your light away. Hold it close and just let it shine!
Through my own journey of self-discovery, I've come to realize just how important authentic relationships are for my well-being. Genuine connections nourish my soul, providing a safe space where I can be my true self. On the flip side, I've also learned the dangers of tolerating relationships that drain my energy or dim my light, making it harder to navigate my path with clarity and purpose.
When we can embrace the power of speaking our truth it can be transformative. Allowing us to set boundaries and cultivate connections that uplift and inspire.
As I dive deeper into this subject, I invite you to join me in exploring how we can nurture our inner light and foster relationships that truly resonate with our authentic selves.
The Dangers of Tolerating Relationships:
Emotional Strain: Suppressing your true feelings and needs can lead to emotional exhaustion. Over time, this can manifest as stress, anxiety, or even depression.
Loss of Identity: Constantly compromising your values to maintain a relationship can cause you to lose touch with your true self, leading to a diminished sense of identity and self-worth.
Physical Health Impact: Chronic stress from unfulfilling relationships can weaken your immune system, increase blood pressure, and contribute to other health issues.
Stunted Personal Growth: Tolerating relationships that don't align with your values can hinder your personal and emotional growth, preventing you from reaching your full potential.
The Power of Speaking Your Truth:
Emotional Freedom: Expressing your true feelings and needs fosters a sense of liberation and authenticity, reducing stress and enhancing emotional well-being.
Stronger Connections: Building relationships based on shared values and open communication leads to deeper, more meaningful connections.
Enhanced Self-Esteem: Standing up for your beliefs and values boosts your confidence and self-esteem, empowering you to live a more fulfilling life.
Positive Ripple Effect: Authentic relationships inspire others to do the same, creating a supportive and nurturing environment for everyone involved.
By prioritizing relationships that align with your values and speaking your truth, you pave the way for a healthier, more fulfilling life. Remember, you deserve relationships that uplift and inspire you. When you live a life based on your truth and your values you are greatly impacting your over-all health. Don’t forget the 1400 chemical reactions that happen in your body when you live in a more coherent state. Choosing love over fear. Love for you first!
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Speaking your truth using Nonviolent Communication (NVC)
NVC is a powerful way to express yourself honestly while fostering understanding and connection. Here's a guide to help you communicate effectively:
Observation: Start by objectively describing the situation without judgment or interpretation. Focus on the facts. For example, "I noticed that during our meetings, I often don't get a chance to share my ideas."
Feelings: Express your feelings related to the observation. Use "I" statements to own your emotions. For example, "I feel overlooked and frustrated."
Needs: Identify and articulate the needs behind your feelings. This helps clarify what is important to you. For example, "I need to feel heard and valued in our discussions."
Request: Make a clear, specific request that can help meet your needs. Ensure it's actionable and positive. For example, "Could we set aside some time in our meetings for everyone to share their thoughts?"
By following these steps, you can speak your truth in a way that encourages empathy and collaboration, creating more meaningful and harmonious relationships.
❤️ In heart,
Laurie
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